Monday, May 17, 2010

My Guy....

While we were going to work (my work, my boyfriend just brings me to work and stays there for the duration of my duty), we were discussing about the perils of me not being independent enough to support my own whims. My sisters have been ganging up on me-unconsciously- about finding a better paying job because I may end up someday regretting not taking advantage of my youth in grabbing employment opportunities.

I had to post something... Once again, most of the pictures and videos I posted in my blog are not mine so credits goes to the owner or maker of this one.

But as I've said, I have to sacrifice one for the other. It's either I get a high paying highly competitive stressful corporate job or I do away with the large salary and tempting incentives for the freedom that I currently have. I chose the latter.

Back to our primary topic. Since I told him that my brother-in-law used to spend all his month's salary in calling my sister everyday when they were far from each other (since cellular phones weren't invented yet), he asked me if I were asked by my sisters about him, what qualities would I tell them that would make him stand out.

My guy... this is something you should ask yourself too. What does your guy do that makes him so special?

My guy...
  • Takes care of me when I'm sick, literally. He takes the day off 'til I get better.
  • Brings me food when he knows I'm in a bad mood.
  • Buys me Twix... I LOVE TWIX
  • Bears with my annoyances like when I used one tune for more than 5 sets of lyrics.

Not my video, it took me like an hour to search for the exact tune that repeated itself in my head. This is from Clannad After Story. Beneath this is the video clip where I got the song.

This tune annoyed him so much. Eventually he succumbs to the power of Dango and started humming it too.
  • Bought me a bouquet of roses and a venti cup of mochaccino frappĂ© because he thought I was extremely mad at him for making me wait for more than an hour. I went out of the office building and there I saw him waiting in the corner with his gifts.
  • Plays Tales of Pirates with me (MMORPG)
  • Allows me to spend our money on my character in Tales of Pirates.
  • Takes care of my character in Tales of Pirates before his.

    Note: I am not encouraging you to spend money on online games because it is not something you could invest on. However, on our end, this is my only past time which is why I decided to allot a very small amount of my salary to buy mall items.
  • Cooks delicious spaghetti!
  • Is PATIENT with me
  • Is understanding
  • Does his best to comfort me during my depression even when he knows his attempts are futile.
This is how depression feels.
  • Supports me in the stories I write. He even pitches his ideas to make it better.
  • Still thinks I'm sexy even when I've grown some pounds.
  • Shares great conversations with me.
  • Takes me to movies I like.
  • Is nice and respectful to my mom even when she pisses him off.
  • Bought me a laptop because he knows I can't live without one ^_^
  • Always thinks I'm charming and cute.
He probably pictures me looking like this in his mind.
  • Has that loving look.
  • Is so smart!!!
  • Is confident. He seldom becomes insecure or jealous. He knows I love him... ^_^
  • Has never dictated my actions. He understands that I know my boundaries.
  • Does not see my Ex as a threat. They talk as if they're friends.
  • Had the ring he gave me engraved with our unconventional motto.
  • Is God-Fearing.
  • Helps me in doing laundry.
  • Does house chores whenever he's at my home (cleaning my room, doing my bed, washing the dishes, buying containers filled with 5 gallons of mineral water for household consumption and more).
  • Deals with my being a perfectionist.
During occurences of male non-responsiveness, you know what to do... Just don't go for the kill.

Wow! and that's not half of it. Of course, he has his flaws too. But why bother thinking about them when his flaws are compensated by his attributes. Yes, we DO fight but the happiness I have experienced with him all this years outweighs all the petty arguments and misunderstandings we encounter everyday.


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Friday, May 7, 2010

Signs of Deception

Yep, I'm not sure if this was caused by poor translation or manga artists have dinasorial (Sorry for my newly coined term. The word racial seemed so inappropriate.) discrimination against dinosaurs.

I was reading an article I came across in Yahoo from titled Dating 101: How to Tell if Your Guy is Lying and this was a PRIZE WINNER. Please take note that all credits go to the real author of the article Nicole Jurick. I just loved the way she summarized these signs.

The Signs of Deception

These signals should throw up a red flag:

Listen for:
  • Stalling for time: "Can we talk about this later?" or repeating the question.
  • Defensiveness: "I don't have to answer that."
  • Excuses: "I would never do that." Or, "I would never jeopardize our relationship."
  • Searching for specifics: "What's your point?" Or, "What are you trying to figure out?"
  • What ifs: "What if I said yes?"
  • Amnesia: "Not that I can remember." Or, "To the best of my knowledge..."
  • Details: Truthful men tell you the truth and answer your question, not tell you the whole story behind the truth. Deceptive men load up their response with more details than are necessary to answer your question.
  • Guilt twists: "Do you really think I would do that?" Or, "I thought you trusted me."
  • Sounds: Clearing his throat, coughing, voice change
  • Qualifiers: "To be perfectly honest..." Or, "To tell you the truth..."

Look for:

  • Fidgeting: Leg movements, shifting, tapping his fingers
  • Gesturing: Such as rubbing or wringing hands
  • Adjusting: Messing with his watch, glasses, or jewel
  • Biting or inspecting his nails
  • Abnormal eye contact
  • Cleaning up his surroundings: Particularly when he's not usually a cleaner
  • Wiping sweat

Here's the link for the article

For the record, this is based according to general observations. Be wary of those who have studied the ways of expert lying. There are others who are born with the "lying gene" or those who we call "compulsive liars". The best advise I can give you is, know your partner. As Nicole had said in her article, make a mental picture of what is his/her "WHAT IS NORMAL" characteristic.
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Monday, May 3, 2010

The Pros and Cons of being with a Silent Guy

Courtesy of Google Search. I take no credit for the images in this blogged. Just placed them to make it look prettier (*^_^*)

I had a big fight with my boyfriend last week regarding money matters. Yes, money matters. It is expected that once you have a psuedo-joint account then serious financial conflicts begin to surface.

So anyway, this epic fight of which I won the battle but lost the war started when I realized that he never told me the tiny detail that due to his schedule change, his salary had reduced to 60% of its original amount.

Why is this a big deal? Not because we would have less than our usual earnings but because he didn't tell me earlier. If he had informed me this little detail even at the moment I had asked him if everything would still be okay, I would've been aware of our current monthly budget. Hence, the occurrence of the almost deficit of our bank account.

As a standard, I prefer silent guys but here are the problems with these types:

PRO 1: UN-chatty guys prefer to listen to their partners talk. So, if you're talkative or have ADHD, you've struck oil.

CON 1: The silence sometimes kills. Especially if you prefer a partner who is highly "reactive"- as if not responding is a form of saying "I wasn't listening."

Not literally speaking...

PRO 2: Silence means "yes"!!! If you wish to debate about whether to buy something you really love with his money or both yours and his, he'll definitely give-in even without the reinforcement of the puppy face pout or the seductively persuasive smile.

CON 2: Silence may also mean: You already know my answer and I have no plans of changing my decision.

PRO 3: He's considerate enough not to tell you his burdens because he knows you also have problems of your own.

CON 3: He's inconsiderate- not enough to hurt you directly but just enough to feel pissed due to his none responsive attitude whenever you try to discuss the topic. They are usually unaware that disclosing from you "some minor detail" would bring about frustrations on your side.

And the finale!

Hope I didn't bore you that much.

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